You will be hurt and you will hurt people. You may not do it intentionally – but it is inevitable. In recent years, I have hurt people from walking away. I love myself way too much than to stay in something that is toxic to my well being.
We always direct forgiveness towards other people. “They did this and that.” Today I want to take a different approach.
There are times in life the main person we need to forgive is ourselves. “If I knew something was going to go bad, I would have done it this way. I just didn’t know” Guilty and feeling ashamed are reactions to “mistakes” we made in life.
Yes, we should be accountable for our actions making us guilty as charged. But that does not automatically mean something is wrong with us – we are simply just doing the best we can.
Pick yourself off the ground and keep pushing towards a brighter future. The only failure is staying in the same place instead of trying to grow and improve.
9 Compassion and forgiveness belong to the Lord our God, though we have rebelled against him Daniel 9:9
Another thing I’ve been going through is family matters. I’m known as the nice smart person in my family. For a while, I was the listening ear to many problems that had nothing to do with me. It was until recently I have had enough and I had to put an end to it all.
For one thing, I’m at the age where I’m thinking about the future. Over time, a fear began to grow inside of me. “What’s the point of having a family if no one around me has a success story?” Logically it didn’t make sense to want to be in a relationship.
As I researched the topic more, I realized that God loves us and wants me to be in community with other people – including a healthy intimate union. Love is important to God and he wants us to experience how beautiful it can be. To get rid of this spirit of fear and blocking love – I had to stop listening to other people’s problems. Other’s fault has nothing to do with where God wants to take me.
It may not be love – it may something else. If it is not the will of God, you don’t have to believe in a lie. You can live a happy fruitful life.
Don’t fight the blessing God has for your life. Choose to live a fearless life.
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper corresponding to him.” Genesis 2:18
We have finally come to the end of the road with the fruit of the spirit series. When I tell you this has been a lot of self-control to go all the way with this…
Anyway, this is the last message in this series I promise. If you need any more help with these fruits – please reach out and I will try to make a blog about your request.
Of course, I can go on and on about how my tongue used to have no filter. I could say something “new” about how hitting the gym takes a lot of restraint from giving up in the first part of your body producing sweat. But I want to say something that is so important – yet no one admits. This my friends is free will
We all have choices to make. Big or small ones – it is important that we make the right ones. I feel like in my heart I always know the right one to do. The hard part is sticking to what I know will be good for my life.
My mentor told me this little lesson. “The first time is always the benefit of the doubt. When it happens the second time – you should be paying attention.But when it happens the third time – it’s time to start making some changes.”
My stubborn personality has its benefits. Once I made up my mind – it’s no changing. No matter what people or things may throw at you, please stay focused on what is true. If you know it’s wrong – have the discipline to stay away from temptation.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and sound judgment.
When I was younger if I felt my ego was being threatened – I could figure out how to punch you with my words. Raw with no filter, some of my words have been unforgettable.
I’m not proud of some of the things I’ve said, it’s really no excuse. As I gotten older I grew wisdom and compassion for others.
“What is Wisdom and compassion? What does that have to do with telling it like it is?”
Knowledge is very powerful. I was blessed with the ability to pick up on people very quickly (ie strengths, weaknesses, etc.)
Over time I had to stop being selfish and taking everything so personal. I had to use my gifts to see the world through someone else’s eyes. Maybe they are having a bad day or sensitive about this topic.
Wisdom is using knowledge as tool to serve God’s purpose. And that’s where compassion comes in.
When Jesus died on the cross. He had compassion for all – even his enemy’s. He knew they were not fully aware of how wrong they were. Instead of using his power for evil – he sacrificed himself.
We must learn to love like Jesus. We all can stand up for ourselves while respecting and loving the enemy.
Conflict does not have to be nasty and spiteful. When I tell people what I will not accept in an assertive loving manner – a peace comes over me.
In conclusion: Do everything with love.
Discretion will watch over you, and understanding will guard you.
This blog started because I wanted to share my journals. I thought I would give a basic outline of my “personal books” in order inspire you all in your own journey.
I guess the first thing to cover is it’s purpose. It’s not always easy verbally expressing yourself or finding outlets. Writing doesn’t have to make perfect sense when it comes out. It’s more of organizing – then coming to a conclusion. Sometimes there is a half a page or 2, whatever it takes to process thoughts and make them complete.
I have 3 journals:
Prayer Journal. It’s easy to forget request and become frustrated. To make sure I know the status of my prayers – I write them out. Most of the time it allows me to see that God is listening and working things out day by day. My prayer journal helps keep my faith strong.
Thought Journal. This includes life events – joyful moments – insecurities. Writing out milestones in my life helps me keep track of time. You never know how slow (or fast) moments go until you check the dates again. Reading thoughts over also helps me think about what I can do next time something like this happens.
Career / Professional Journal. Having this journal helps me keep my materialistic objectives together. Goals & business wishlist are all in this book. When ever I get an idea it’s best to just write everything down.
My first journal was just for my thoughts. Once I started maturing in my career and prayers – the other 2 followed. You can start off with which ever one you would like.
I try to journal at least 4 times a week. One thing I need to work on is making it an everyday habit. For now I’m just taking baby steps.
It is so simple, but it’s not always easy. Everyone can do it – but many choose not to. This lesson can save a lot of people from reading a 300 page self-help book that may or may not help. Now I know you’re dying to know. Ready ? Alright here goes.
The lesson is : If you do the right thing with everything, you will end up ok.
“That’s all you have for me really? Of course I knew that.”
I told you in the opening that it was so simple but you did not believe me. Now I’m not going to write you an entire essay – I’m just going to create a simple table for the most common problems people have.
If this happens…..
The right thing to do is…..
Someone hurts your feelings
Forgive them and pray for them. It takes time but please don’t become bitter over that person. You’re only hurting yourself
You feel like you’re not getting treated fair
Respectfully stand up for yourself, and walk away from the situation. You don’t have to spend time in a space that does not serve you
You are not in the best money situation
Pray for wisdom for you finances. After that, brainstorm how you can make things better. Example: Go back to school, get a second job, learn a different trade, get professional advice
Always treat people how you want to be treated even if they don’t treat you the same
Always have a strong work ethic with integrity even if you don’t see the reward ahead
Always forgive even if they don’t say I’m sorry or like you anymore
Always respect others even if you don’t get the respect you think you deserve
These things seem so difficult and like you will never get any where. I promise you will get everything you need in life if you do the right thing.
That’s it – that’s the secret.
Yet do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that when you are accused,those who disparage your good conduct in Christ will be put to shame.1 Peter 3:16
I was severely skinny with braces and glasses. My clothing choice was not the best. The car I drove had so many dents in it. And yes – I lived with my parents after the American age tells you should get out.
God can take any situation – any person and turn them into something. He will call the weak and make them strong to show who he is.
Now before you go -YEA I’M ABOUT TO STUNT AND SHOW EVERYONE WHO’S BOSS-
God doesn’t want to just bless you so your enemies can become footstools. It’s deeper than that. You can’t want success just to show off and be selfish in your ways.
Blessings are to change your heart. When your heart is changed you will live for him. Living for him will influence those around you to be closer to him. The more the better to glorify his holy name.
When I lost my braces and started living the American dream – yes my head got a little big. It took my Aunt (the one who told me I need to eat because I’m too skinny) to re direct me back to the lord.
“Sometimes there is spiritual warfare. Sometimes your ego can make you fall right into the enemy’s trap.”
My blessings and accomplishments had become louder than God. And you know what the bible says : he can give and take away.
Luckily I had family around me to talk sense into me. To those who may not have that. Please read this -STOP.- Come back down from your high horse. Live for the creator and source who has blessed you.
12 For a day belonging to the Lord of Armies is coming against all that is proud and lofty, against all that is lifted up—it will be humbled— Isaiah 2:12