When I was younger if I felt my ego was being threatened – I could figure out how to punch you with my words. Raw with no filter, some of my words have been unforgettable.
I’m not proud of some of the things I’ve said, it’s really no excuse. As I gotten older I grew wisdom and compassion for others.
“What is Wisdom and compassion? What does that have to do with telling it like it is?”
Knowledge is very powerful. I was blessed with the ability to pick up on people very quickly (ie strengths, weaknesses, etc.)
Over time I had to stop being selfish and taking everything so personal. I had to use my gifts to see the world through someone else’s eyes. Maybe they are having a bad day or sensitive about this topic.
Wisdom is using knowledge as tool to serve God’s purpose. And that’s where compassion comes in.
When Jesus died on the cross. He had compassion for all – even his enemy’s. He knew they were not fully aware of how wrong they were. Instead of using his power for evil – he sacrificed himself.
We must learn to love like Jesus. We all can stand up for ourselves while respecting and loving the enemy.
Conflict does not have to be nasty and spiteful. When I tell people what I will not accept in an assertive loving manner – a peace comes over me.
In conclusion: Do everything with love.
Discretion will watch over you, and understanding will guard you.
This blog started because I wanted to share my journals. I thought I would give a basic outline of my “personal books” in order inspire you all in your own journey.
I guess the first thing to cover is it’s purpose. It’s not always easy verbally expressing yourself or finding outlets. Writing doesn’t have to make perfect sense when it comes out. It’s more of organizing – then coming to a conclusion. Sometimes there is a half a page or 2, whatever it takes to process thoughts and make them complete.
I have 3 journals:
Prayer Journal. It’s easy to forget request and become frustrated. To make sure I know the status of my prayers – I write them out. Most of the time it allows me to see that God is listening and working things out day by day. My prayer journal helps keep my faith strong.
Thought Journal. This includes life events – joyful moments – insecurities. Writing out milestones in my life helps me keep track of time. You never know how slow (or fast) moments go until you check the dates again. Reading thoughts over also helps me think about what I can do next time something like this happens.
Career / Professional Journal. Having this journal helps me keep my materialistic objectives together. Goals & business wishlist are all in this book. When ever I get an idea it’s best to just write everything down.
My first journal was just for my thoughts. Once I started maturing in my career and prayers – the other 2 followed. You can start off with which ever one you would like.
I try to journal at least 4 times a week. One thing I need to work on is making it an everyday habit. For now I’m just taking baby steps.
It is so simple, but it’s not always easy. Everyone can do it – but many choose not to. This lesson can save a lot of people from reading a 300 page self-help book that may or may not help. Now I know you’re dying to know. Ready ? Alright here goes.
The lesson is : If you do the right thing with everything, you will end up ok.
“That’s all you have for me really? Of course I knew that.”
I told you in the opening that it was so simple but you did not believe me. Now I’m not going to write you an entire essay – I’m just going to create a simple table for the most common problems people have.
If this happens…..
The right thing to do is…..
Someone hurts your feelings
Forgive them and pray for them. It takes time but please don’t become bitter over that person. You’re only hurting yourself
You feel like you’re not getting treated fair
Respectfully stand up for yourself, and walk away from the situation. You don’t have to spend time in a space that does not serve you
You are not in the best money situation
Pray for wisdom for you finances. After that, brainstorm how you can make things better. Example: Go back to school, get a second job, learn a different trade, get professional advice
Always treat people how you want to be treated even if they don’t treat you the same
Always have a strong work ethic with integrity even if you don’t see the reward ahead
Always forgive even if they don’t say I’m sorry or like you anymore
Always respect others even if you don’t get the respect you think you deserve
These things seem so difficult and like you will never get any where. I promise you will get everything you need in life if you do the right thing.
That’s it – that’s the secret.
Yet do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that when you are accused,those who disparage your good conduct in Christ will be put to shame.1 Peter 3:16
I was severely skinny with braces and glasses. My clothing choice was not the best. The car I drove had so many dents in it. And yes – I lived with my parents after the American age tells you should get out.
God can take any situation – any person and turn them into something. He will call the weak and make them strong to show who he is.
Now before you go -YEA I’M ABOUT TO STUNT AND SHOW EVERYONE WHO’S BOSS-
God doesn’t want to just bless you so your enemies can become footstools. It’s deeper than that. You can’t want success just to show off and be selfish in your ways.
Blessings are to change your heart. When your heart is changed you will live for him. Living for him will influence those around you to be closer to him. The more the better to glorify his holy name.
When I lost my braces and started living the American dream – yes my head got a little big. It took my Aunt (the one who told me I need to eat because I’m too skinny) to re direct me back to the lord.
“Sometimes there is spiritual warfare. Sometimes your ego can make you fall right into the enemy’s trap.”
My blessings and accomplishments had become louder than God. And you know what the bible says : he can give and take away.
Luckily I had family around me to talk sense into me. To those who may not have that. Please read this -STOP.- Come back down from your high horse. Live for the creator and source who has blessed you.
12 For a day belonging to the Lord of Armies is coming against all that is proud and lofty, against all that is lifted up—it will be humbled— Isaiah 2:12
The bad news is – nothing in this world is going to give you the answer. Family, jobs, love will always lead to a mind of questions. I had success in all 3 and still wondered who I was.
The good news is we have a source who knows everything about us. Past present and future is in the palm of his hands. Your identity will be given if you just follow his son.
Here are a few tips to create an identity in Christ.
Connect with the father: prayer and the bible are both great starts.
Keep a journal. Write the highs and the lows. Writing it out will help you keep track on how far you’ve come. Keeping a journal will also let you see areas that may need improvement.
Build relationships : join a Christian community – finding a place that encourages you to grow will build your confidence
Try. If you see something you’re interested in – give it a try. There is no harm in seeing if you like a small group or volunteer work. Keep trying stuff until you find your thing.
Consistency : being a Christian is a lifestyle change. Make room for your relationship with Jesus.
“This is too much work! I can’t do all of this.”
Well concerned reader here is a thought:
It’s a marathon not a sprint. It may take you 1 day, 1 year, 10 years to do these 5. All God wants is a mustard seed of faith – and he will handle the rest.
3 So if you have been raised with Christ, seek the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1-3
As I was praying to God last night I said “if I had it my way I would have this by now.” I think a lot of us feel that way. If we had everything we wanted, all problems would be solved.
Adam and Eve had everything they wanted in the Garden of Eden. They did not have to worry about dying or what was going to happen next. They were given one restriction – don’t seek anything else but God. It sounds so simple – I know. But when temptation and free will appeared – guess what happened? They fell for what they thought was best for them.
It’s my favorite story in the bible because it shows how naive humans can be. We think we know what is best for us. When ungodly things come into our lives – we rationalize them. We say “just this one time.” Adam and Eve’s temptation cost them the kingdom of heaven and life. What does our disobedience cost us?
Now before you go beating yourself up, don’t go there. God knew there is no such thing as perfection. Jesus was the super hero that saved humanity from all mistakes – they are inevitable.
There is a life of prosperity and blessings God wants to give us. Seeking god with a yearning heart will build a life you never thought possible. Temptation and mistake will happen – it’s a part of life. Jesus died for us to create an attainable peace and strength to overcome challenges. Please don’t stop fighting for your relationship with God.
17 And the world with its lust is passing away, but the one who does the will of God remains forever. 1 John 2:17
Before I was a full time Christian – I thought there were magical words that just makes things happen. -POOF!- It works. Maybe there is something I don’t know and there’s an awesome secret to prayer. To those who already believe or trying to start their prayer journey I wanted to create something special for you.
I. Things to Remember:
There is no such thing as a prayer expert. There are no perfect words. God understands every language, slang word, etc. He know’s what you are trying to say even if you don’t think it’s coming out the right way.
When you pray, you are talking to your creator. If you like to pick your boogers then bite your finger nails – it’s not a secret to God. If that’s your thing, he already knew you were like that when you were in the womb. No sin or weird thing is going to keep God from loving you unconditionally.
The purpose of prayer is affirmation. Prayer creates a confirmation that you and God are on the same page. Nothing matters except your genuine heart expression. It’s sort of like the world will stop just to connect with the father.
(Still a hard one for me) : God always answers prayers as soon as you speak. I’ve heard it’s usually yes, not yet, or I have something better. Don’t get upset if you lose something or “something goes wrong.” If something is not healthy in your life, it will be revealed. You may not like it, but you must be obedient in order to receive the full blessing.
II. My Personal Prayer Structure
As I stated before – there is no right way. However, I wanted to give my outline of prayer just in case you’re a beginner or in a rut.
Give thanks :Tell God everything you’re thankful for. “Thank you for this great day. Thank you giving me a cup of coffee I didn’t ask for.” Big or small, I like to show God I’m paying attention to the things in my life.
Go down the list of concerns– fears, things that made you angry, people that hurt you. This will probably be the longest part of the prayer. Be honest, open and real. As I’ve stated in a previous post – when I first started praying I used a lot of profanity. No it was not right, but God met me where I was and changed my language as I grew in Christ.
Pray for others. If they are on your mind pray. No matter if they hurt you or don’t want to talk to you – it builds your character and compassion for others. Believe it or not when you pray for other people God will reveal things about you that you probably didn’t know exist. For instance, you may have an entitlement issue.
Bring it all in & conclude. I always like to end with “your kingdom come your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Once I realized what that meant and how beautiful it was – it became my thing. Find what works for you.
If you have spiritual time keep these pointers and try this way of praying. Happy Thanksgiving!
14 This is the confidence we have before him: If we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 1 John 5:14