We’ve all been there. You get into an argument with someone. Our first reaction is to start bringing up all of those bad things we think about them. Sure we would never say it to them if we weren’t upset and hurt, but it’s a battle and we have to win.
When I was a young girl in college — saying the first bad thought that came to my mind felt good. “Oh yeah, you want to be hurt my feelings? Well, let’s see how you like this.”
People aren’t perfect – someone will do or say something that you don’t like. I had to start putting myself in other people’s shoes.
Kindness comes from understanding someone’s weaknesses and choosing not to hurt them. It’s easy to call a person out on their insecurities so you feel great for the moment. Everyone has bad days – including you. I wouldn’t want someone to kick me when I’m down, so I try not to do it to others.
Being kind does not mean you can’t be assertive or speak your truth. I mean the truth does set you free (John 8:32). However, when you say what needs to be said, you can be considerate of the another’s circumstances. You may know they are going through this or that – don’t make them feel even worst, no matter how good it feels. Believe me, it will come back to bite you.
Kindness – a fruit that is worth the development.
10 Then he said, “May the Lord bless you, my daughter. You have shown more kindness now than before, because you have not pursued younger men, whether rich or poor. Ruth 3:10
Today, I’m taking a break a break from fruits of the spirit. I thought it would help to share my personal goals with you for 2018. These 5 things I goals wrote to inspire you to create your own. I really hope you enjoy them.
Find someone worth marrying.
There are a few guys that have expressed their interest. Even though I’m not desperate, it would be nice to share my happiness with someone. I know for sure a special man is out there.
To have success for this blog by helping others.
I’m not going to lie, writing for this blog is hard work. It is so rewarding to have reached 6,000 people. Jesus is amazing; the world needs to know that. If I can do my little bitty part, I will be satisfied.
Explore the world more.
I live in the United States. The only place I’ve been is to the Bahamas. It would be nice to travel to see different cultures. Expanding my perception of life would be perfect.
Be wiser with my money
Lately, my financial life has been crazy. Having financial freedom is my goal. Right now, I need to think about the bigger picture rather than what I want to do. [Need vs want — 2 totally different things.]
Take Better care of myself.
Everyone says – “be sure to give to others. Don’t forget the needs of people.” The truth we all need to face is: we can’t help anyone until we cater to our needs first. What can we do without our holistic health? Going to the gym, eating right, socializing, going to church, spending time with family, etc. are just as important as giving back.
So these are a list of my goals for 2018. I will keep you updated on the process. If you have things you want to accomplish, write them down and ask God to help fulfill those needs. God bless and I will talk to you Tuesday.
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A person’s heart plans his way, but the Lord determines his steps.
Trials and tribulations are inevitable. There will be bad days.
Yes, it is possible to have this fruit of the spirit. No matter your situation or thoughts, you can have peace.
Praying to God is what got me through some of my darkest hours. “This is what’s going on, I don’t know what’s going to happen. I pray that you take this pain away from me.”
This previous Sunday it was pouring down rain. I had enough faith to drive to church. Once I got in the parking lot, volunteers were waiting for people with umbrellas. They didn’t ask questions or judge the rain. We all kept the umbrella until we safely got in the building.
No matter how bad it may seem, he wants to give you peace in your storm. Peace helps to develop your strength while you are waiting for the light to shine.
Please give God the authority over your mind and emotions. Our father can reassure us during imperfect times.
A peaceful mind will help you make the best decisions for your life to become whole. So please pray for this fruit.
Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
In college, I was the annoying friend who always had something positive to say. When our senior project was overwhelming, I was the one uplifting my exhausted friends. It’s not like my life was perfect at that time. It was actually one of the stressful moments I endured in years.
I just ended a 3 years relationship and my parents were looking for me to become an adult. It was a time in my life when I was between the young girl phase trying to transition into a woman. Even though I didn’t know Jesus fully – I had a mustard seed of faith. My belief in God was the only thing that kept me going. My motto became “this is where I am in life and I’m not going to let anxiety ruin my last year of college.”
There is a big difference between happiness and joy. Happiness comes from the result of your current situation. “Hey things are going pretty good, I like my life. I guess I will be happy.” Joy says “this season may not be what I want but I’m going to enjoy what I have. I’m not going to have a pity party.”
It doesn’t mean you don’t want more out of life or you are just going to sit and let life beat you up. It simply means you have to make the most out of the cards you were dealt.
Maybe you don’t feel good or pretty right now. Maybe situations in life are not going the way you hope them to be. Hey sometimes life isn’t fair and it’s hard. Joy comes from accepting where you are in life and making it work. Joy can sometimes mean making lemonade out of lemons.
The result of having joy is giving God the power to order your steps. I have so much to be thankful for now because I gave my troubles to Jesus. My life isn’t perfect but I’m blessed beyond measure. When you stop to accept what you have and let God handle the rest, the only way to go is up.
10 Then he said to them, “Go and eat what is rich, drink what is sweet, and send portions to those who have nothing prepared, since today is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, because the joy of the Lord is your strength.”
This blog started because I wanted to share my journals. I thought I would give a basic outline of my “personal books” in order inspire you all in your own journey.
I guess the first thing to cover is it’s purpose. It’s not always easy verbally expressing yourself or finding outlets. Writing doesn’t have to make perfect sense when it comes out. It’s more of organizing – then coming to a conclusion. Sometimes there is a half a page or 2, whatever it takes to process thoughts and make them complete.
I have 3 journals:
Prayer Journal. It’s easy to forget request and become frustrated. To make sure I know the status of my prayers – I write them out. Most of the time it allows me to see that God is listening and working things out day by day. My prayer journal helps keep my faith strong.
Thought Journal. This includes life events – joyful moments – insecurities. Writing out milestones in my life helps me keep track of time. You never know how slow (or fast) moments go until you check the dates again. Reading thoughts over also helps me think about what I can do next time something like this happens.
Career / Professional Journal. Having this journal helps me keep my materialistic objectives together. Goals & business wishlist are all in this book. When ever I get an idea it’s best to just write everything down.
My first journal was just for my thoughts. Once I started maturing in my career and prayers – the other 2 followed. You can start off with which ever one you would like.
I try to journal at least 4 times a week. One thing I need to work on is making it an everyday habit. For now I’m just taking baby steps.
God thank you for a great weekend. Thank you for the powerful sermon from my pastor. Thank you for allowing my confidence in you not to perish because of this world.
God I pray that I am productive and alert this week. Let me strive for excellence in my work and my family. I pray that I can be a great influence to those around me so they will seek the kingdom of heaven.
If there is anything I need to change – I pray that it be done in the name of Jesus. Let me continue to have a purpose and passion for life. Let me see myself and others the way you see us.
Anything that I am in need of let it be fulfilled.
Your kingdom come your will be done on earth how it is done inn heaven.