We’ve all been there. You get into an argument with someone. Our first reaction is to start bringing up all of those bad things we think about them. Sure we would never say it to them if we weren’t upset and hurt, but it’s a battle and we have to win.
When I was a young girl in college — saying the first bad thought that came to my mind felt good. “Oh yeah, you want to be hurt my feelings? Well, let’s see how you like this.”
People aren’t perfect – someone will do or say something that you don’t like. I had to start putting myself in other people’s shoes.
Kindness comes from understanding someone’s weaknesses and choosing not to hurt them. It’s easy to call a person out on their insecurities so you feel great for the moment. Everyone has bad days – including you. I wouldn’t want someone to kick me when I’m down, so I try not to do it to others.
Being kind does not mean you can’t be assertive or speak your truth. I mean the truth does set you free (John 8:32). However, when you say what needs to be said, you can be considerate of the another’s circumstances. You may know they are going through this or that – don’t make them feel even worst, no matter how good it feels. Believe me, it will come back to bite you.
Kindness – a fruit that is worth the development.
10 Then he said, “May the Lord bless you, my daughter. You have shown more kindness now than before, because you have not pursued younger men, whether rich or poor. Ruth 3:10
So like I stated in my goals post, men have expressed their interest in me. They were great guys and I found they had potential.
No, I’m not looking for perfection. But the question I have is: how am I supposed to submit to a man who doesn’t even believe in himself.
I’m 25 and my parents are worried I can’t a find a partner. I’m like “relax, I’ve only been single for 6 months, I’m not trying to get into something I will regret for the rest of my life.” And this is where patience comes in.
If this is the season to rest and develop, that is what I’m going to do. Being jealous of other relationships is not going to help my situation. When the right partner comes – I want to fully enjoy him. Bringing baggage and complaints to the table is not a goal of mine.
“He may not come when you want him – but he’ll there right on time” is an old school song we used to sing. God always gives us the things we need, rather than what we want.
Trusting in the highest father is what I’m doing, and I know it will be worth the wait.
In the meantime, I’m making sure my apartment is clean, and I cook meals – even if it’s just for myself. Preparing and evolving is what I’m using my singleness for.
A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Today, I’m taking a break a break from fruits of the spirit. I thought it would help to share my personal goals with you for 2018. These 5 things I goals wrote to inspire you to create your own. I really hope you enjoy them.
Find someone worth marrying.
There are a few guys that have expressed their interest. Even though I’m not desperate, it would be nice to share my happiness with someone. I know for sure a special man is out there.
To have success for this blog by helping others.
I’m not going to lie, writing for this blog is hard work. It is so rewarding to have reached 6,000 people. Jesus is amazing; the world needs to know that. If I can do my little bitty part, I will be satisfied.
Explore the world more.
I live in the United States. The only place I’ve been is to the Bahamas. It would be nice to travel to see different cultures. Expanding my perception of life would be perfect.
Be wiser with my money
Lately, my financial life has been crazy. Having financial freedom is my goal. Right now, I need to think about the bigger picture rather than what I want to do. [Need vs want — 2 totally different things.]
Take Better care of myself.
Everyone says – “be sure to give to others. Don’t forget the needs of people.” The truth we all need to face is: we can’t help anyone until we cater to our needs first. What can we do without our holistic health? Going to the gym, eating right, socializing, going to church, spending time with family, etc. are just as important as giving back.
So these are a list of my goals for 2018. I will keep you updated on the process. If you have things you want to accomplish, write them down and ask God to help fulfill those needs. God bless and I will talk to you Tuesday.
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A person’s heart plans his way, but the Lord determines his steps.
Trials and tribulations are inevitable. There will be bad days.
Yes, it is possible to have this fruit of the spirit. No matter your situation or thoughts, you can have peace.
Praying to God is what got me through some of my darkest hours. “This is what’s going on, I don’t know what’s going to happen. I pray that you take this pain away from me.”
This previous Sunday it was pouring down rain. I had enough faith to drive to church. Once I got in the parking lot, volunteers were waiting for people with umbrellas. They didn’t ask questions or judge the rain. We all kept the umbrella until we safely got in the building.
No matter how bad it may seem, he wants to give you peace in your storm. Peace helps to develop your strength while you are waiting for the light to shine.
Please give God the authority over your mind and emotions. Our father can reassure us during imperfect times.
A peaceful mind will help you make the best decisions for your life to become whole. So please pray for this fruit.
Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
In college, I was the annoying friend who always had something positive to say. When our senior project was overwhelming, I was the one uplifting my exhausted friends. It’s not like my life was perfect at that time. It was actually one of the stressful moments I endured in years.
I just ended a 3 years relationship and my parents were looking for me to become an adult. It was a time in my life when I was between the young girl phase trying to transition into a woman. Even though I didn’t know Jesus fully – I had a mustard seed of faith. My belief in God was the only thing that kept me going. My motto became “this is where I am in life and I’m not going to let anxiety ruin my last year of college.”
There is a big difference between happiness and joy. Happiness comes from the result of your current situation. “Hey things are going pretty good, I like my life. I guess I will be happy.” Joy says “this season may not be what I want but I’m going to enjoy what I have. I’m not going to have a pity party.”
It doesn’t mean you don’t want more out of life or you are just going to sit and let life beat you up. It simply means you have to make the most out of the cards you were dealt.
Maybe you don’t feel good or pretty right now. Maybe situations in life are not going the way you hope them to be. Hey sometimes life isn’t fair and it’s hard. Joy comes from accepting where you are in life and making it work. Joy can sometimes mean making lemonade out of lemons.
The result of having joy is giving God the power to order your steps. I have so much to be thankful for now because I gave my troubles to Jesus. My life isn’t perfect but I’m blessed beyond measure. When you stop to accept what you have and let God handle the rest, the only way to go is up.
10 Then he said to them, “Go and eat what is rich, drink what is sweet, and send portions to those who have nothing prepared, since today is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, because the joy of the Lord is your strength.”
Surprise! I’m kicking off a new series where I will talk about fruits of the spirit. I’m going to go over each one in my own special way.
The first one I will be talking about is love.
Every person in my life wants to experience this, including myself. As we grow older – our needs change, but the main foundation is love. I remember being a child trying my best to be as cute as I can for the attention of my family.
As I got older my ideas of what I had to do to receive love evolved. Honestly, it became exhausting. I never felt fully satisfied. I went through a phase where I just gave up until I realized these 2 important cliches.
God is the only one that can give you real unconditional love. When someone says “I love you” it’s usually a “but…” at the end. There will always be a price to receive love from humans. Some people standards are low while others are high, but there has to be something given. God’s love is unconditional. There is nothing in this world you can give that God needs. Yet there is an everlasting abundance of acceptance and compassion that is given just for being you.
You have to love yourself first. On the journey of finding out Jesus, I found my identity. The value I had for myself began to grow. All the potential God gave me began to show in the mirror and I was impressed. My standards grew and I no longer lowered myself to please other people. “This is how I deserve to be treated and I’m not here to impress you” became my new attitude. Being born again in Christ gave me a new outlook on myself which made me love myself in Christ. Surprisingly when you love who you are, it’s much easier to love others. It’s true what they say, how you treat other people is how you see yourself.
So there you have it. Love is what we all should live by to make this life worthwhile.
16 And we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.
God is love, and the one who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in him.