The only option growing up was to accept change. Even if it was as simple as going to the next grade – I had to start all over again, A LOT!
It became a point in my life where I became numb to change – and it was easy for me to move on from people and circumstances. I don’t regret this part of me – the risks I took came with success. But what happens when you find the right people in your life? People who really enjoy you and encourage your growth? Do you just move on when they aren’t perfect?
My instant instinct is to distance myself and keep it moving. “This is too complicated, I’m out!” But when it comes to family and my future spouse – I know it’s a lifelong assignment. I will have to accept people where they are, flaws and all.
There is nothing wrong with creating boundaries and healthy space. We should value God and ourselves before we give to others. But that does not mean we throw away everything that was built. We must forgive people when they make mistakes and learn to work together.
Now I know what you’re thinking “it’s not that easy, sometimes it’s really hard.”
I can only speak from my personal experiences. When my family and I have back to back disagreements – we love each other enough to create boundaries until we can come to an agreement. I wouldn’t marry someone who wasn’t willing to change and grow before we became one. And once we did unite, I would have to do whatever it takes.
We need people and community. Some form of loyalty is necessary. We were not designed to make it alone.
So let’s strive to keep our relationships healthy.