Posted at 5:57 pm , on October 9, 2018
Hey all! I’m back with another Coffee table read. This is another Relationship book. Here are some quick facts about Mingling of Souls
- Written by Matt Chandler
- 218 pages with bonus note section
- Based off of the Song of Solomon
- Moderate bible verse break down – a lot of commentaries
- The cover says “God’s Design for love, marriage sex, and redemption”
First off I would like to say, I did not know all of this stuff was in the bible. Once he got to the part on sex I was like “whoa! That’s what I want.”
Matt Chandler approach to this Bible story was beautiful. He illustrated why people should fall for each other and stay together. From the chapters “Attraction” to “I’m not going anywhere”, I developed a clear perspective on why I’m waiting for God’s chosen spouse.
Although the book is over 200 pages, it is worth time to read. Verse by verse, the Song Solomon is broken down and translated in a way that relates to modern times.
Chandler also has a lot of other books that I hope to read in the future. I’m giving this a thumbs up.
Posted at 12:12 pm , on August 17, 2018
This is an extremely important topic. If you want to save time and effort, you must test someone’s spirit [1 John 4:1]. Anyone can look good on the outside. No one can put on a show forever, the truth of the soul will always be revealed [Proverbs 10:9]. Here are a few tips for testing someone’s spirit.
- Do they speak life or death into the world? Are they positive or negative? [Proverbs 18:21]
- If they say they are going to do something, do they do it? [Integrity] [1 Peter 3:16]
- When they do not get their way, do they become angry and impulsive? [Proverbs 14:29]
- Do they possess the fruits of the holy spirit? [Galatians 5:22-23]
- Do they say everything with love? [1 Peter 4:8]
- Are their words of truth instead of anything that sounds good for the moment? [John 8:44]
- Do their words speak from fear or judgment? [2 Timothy 1:7]
Once you figure out someone’s heart – believe that you are right. Do not try to reason for the fear of being without friends. God will always provide everything you need.
Posted at 11:30 pm , on July 27, 2018
A clip from my thoughts on June 9th, 2018
I feel every inch of my spirit.
Alive, uncomfortable, anxious hoping silence will calm me.
Back and forth I go over thoughts and how I could make things right – I’m left with nothing
I pause and sigh. “You know what I’m only one person, I’m not God. I can’t do everything. I can’t please everyone.”
If we are not clear about what our purpose and roles are in life, it sort of becomes like we’re on a hamster wheel.
I’m in the process of letting go of perfectionism, it’s served its purpose in my life. I accept that I won’t always know the answer or have solutions for others. We were all given one mind and spirit for a reason – we weren’t designed to live for other people. Yes, it is important to be in a supportive community and of service to others – but our connection to God is the most important aspect of our existence.
I release all plans and fears, and once again – I take a leap of faith.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come. Proverbs 31:25
Posted at 11:30 pm , on July 11, 2018
“You can’t be in flight or fight forever.” This is a quote from a podcast I heard recently. It had me thinking about my life up until this point.
This week will be one year since I’ve been in a new city. Even though it was hard, I’ve met some wonderful people. God has really delivered me from too much self-protection. Finally, I’m learning to believe people again.
It can be easy to forget the benefits of being vulnerable. We give up the opportunity for the good people to love us for our flaws. There is no room for blessings because we think everything is for the bad instead of the good. I don’t have to be the mean girl anymore because people won’t believe my nice sweet side. I can love a man and trust he won’t hurt me like other “boys” have done in the past.
Spiritual warfare is real, but sometimes we have to admit that the real enemy is ourselves. Get out of your own way and let love take over. Love is the only thing that can conquer all the hate and fear in the world. Use it and know that you will be ok with whatever life throws at you.
16 I will lead the blind by a way they did not know; I will guide them on paths they have not known. I will turn darkness to light in front of them, and rough places into level ground. This is what I will do for them, and I will not forsake them.
Posted at 11:30 pm , on May 23, 2018
One thing I hate about loving people is losing them. Whether through death, break-ups, or drifting apart, it’s never a simple moment.
It’s easy to say God is the only thing promised in our lives, but that doesn’t take away the pain. I could tell you to simply move on, and we all know that wouldn’t replace someone.
I don’t have an answer for what to do when losing someone, I can only share my experience.
At the age of 12, I lost my grandmother to breast cancer. So far, it was one of the most devasting events in my life. Years have past and I still find myself crying during a certain time of the year.
All we can do in this life is leave our own legacy. We can enjoy the people we have now. Giving wisdom we learned as we get older allows the next generations to prosper.
Death is part of the deal for the living. Fortunately, there is the kingdom of heaven that will give us rest when it is time.
13 Then I heard a voice from heaven saying, “Write: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.”
“Yes,” says the Spirit, “so they will rest from their labors, since their works follow them.”
Posted at 12:30 am , on March 3, 2018
We only have 2 more to talk about in this series until we start something new. Thank you so much for being patient with me as I finish this.
Ok, can I share something with you all? I always prayed that a man would “seek” me & God, but I didn’t know it would actually happen. When wanting someone to be your partner, it is so important to be gentle.
First be sure to find out if they are interested. In this case, I am very interested in this person. I find them attractive and I like the way they carry themselves. They seem confident along with a lot of self-discipline. Not only do they possess the above, but they are kind and patient with me.
Like a lot of people who have had their heart is broken and time wasted, I am very protective of myself. I want to know God has sent them before I make a full investment. This guy makes it clear they like me without being too aggressive or controlling.
“It is easier to catch bees with honey” is such a true summary of being gentle. In order to gain someone’s love and acceptance, show them your good side and that you are willing to be there. The right people will love this quality about you.
Pleasant words are a honeycomb:
sweet to the taste and health to the body.